There are very few people that would go on a first date and not experience any nerves whatsoever. This is because it is very much the feeling of stepping into the unknown. So many questions arise in the mind.
Will your date like what they see? What is the venue going to be like for that occasion?
Is there going to be enough conversation or is it all going to end in awkward silence?
There can be many reasons for having low self-esteem and non-existent confidence levels.
However, here are a few ways in which you could help quell the nerves that you are feeling and enjoy the date that you are going on.
#1 Work on Your Confidence
Confidence plays a big part in being able to wing the first date and be triumphant. However, you are not going to want to come across as overconfident with yourself.
For some people, however, there is no confidence to draw from, and this could be due to how they perceive they look to others, but for some people, it is in their level of communication skills. If this is true for you, there are professional speech therapists that may be able to help you. Indeed a website, such as this, has details of how you can find your voice, help you articulate and pronounce the words you would like to say, as well assist you with formulating sentences.
#2 Don’t Overthink Your Appearance
You mustn’t overthink your appearance. Dress in clothes that are comfortable for you, It is important that you feel yourself and show your personality to your date. Overdressing or dressing in a way that is far not ‘you’ will give your date the wrong impression of your personality, and so much so, that you may as well be wearing a fancy dress costume.
#3 Give Yourself Plenty of Time
Make sure that you have plenty of time to get ready. You do not want to turn up on your date looking unkempt or like a whirlwind has hit you because you have had no time to do your hair or make-up. Or, for that matter, without any necessities that you may require, such as money or other personal items.
Although your date may very well see the funny side of it, it is unlikely that you will get another date with that person to prove that you are normally a little more organized.
#4 Know Where You Are Going
With this in mind, you should make sure that you know where you are going. Where possible, it is advisable to make your way to the date location a day or so before the date happens so that you know your route and how long it will take you to make the journey. This will also calm your nerves about the location, as it will not seem new to you.
#5 Try Some Deep Breathing Exercises
If, as the time approaches, you are still shaking with nerves, you’ve been ready for hours, and you feel that time has slowed right down, then the best thing you can do is to do some deep breathing exercises to help focus your mind and calm your nerves. Breathe deeply, in through your nose and out through your mouth. Take each breath in slowly down into your belly and then release it slowly out of your mouth.
Do not force it. Take it slowly, calmly, and then repeat the process.
